There are things I want in life. Some feel like needs. Others are just dreams. But life doesn’t care about my plans.
I know not every wish will come true. Yet, I keep dreaming.
The burning desire feels like a coal nugget in my chest, burning unrelentingly.
In life, every problem falls into one of two piles according to renowned author, Stephen Covey:
Things I can control.
Things I can’t.
For the first, I take immediate action. For the second, I face the pain, breathe through it, and move forward.
We hear it often: “Let go. Trust God. Be content.” It sounds simple. But it’s hard.
You apply for a job or a promotion. You give it everything — your time, effort, and hope. You imagine the victory speech, with celebration glasses clinking together. Then, the rejection comes. And it stings.
Why is it so hard to release expectations? It feels as difficult as striving to grab a kite drifting farther away.
The answer lies in trust. Real trust. The kind that doesn’t waver. Trusting that what happens, even the heartbreak, is part of a plan bigger than us.
Letting go doesn’t mean living without expectations. That would be naive. We all deserve certain things — love, respect, fairness. Beyond that, though, we expect too much. A life without tension begins where these unnecessary expectations end.
But how do we let go? I remind myself:
Focus on what you can do now, and not what might happen.
Love the process more than the outcome.
Slow down. Stop chasing every moment like it’s your last.
Meditation helps. Guided affirmations about patience, gratitude, and living in the moment remind me to ground myself.
When life feels cruel, I ask:
“Can I change this?”
If yes, I work hard on it. If not, I let it go with a refreshing smile — after shedding tears while listening to sad lo-fi songs and munching dark chocolate. 🍫
Peace is not control, but acceptance.
Accepting uncertainty and letting go of expectations brings you inner peace.
Respond, don’t react. When chaos comes, meet it with calm. It’s a choice. Focus on what you can control. As for the rest, trust in God’s plan.
Inner peace doesn’t come from getting what we want. It comes from accepting what is.
“It’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.” — Stephen R. Covey
Uncertainties in life are unavoidable, but our responses define us. We can choose our response. What’s one thing you’ve let go of recently, and how did it bring you peace? I’d love to know your thoughts.
With love,
Amina 🫶🏼
